One of the earliest and most important things I’ve learned (and often forget) from martial arts is that even if we block the first attack, we’ll still get hit if we don’t move out of the way. This principle is true when dealing with the excessive negativity of others; maybe we’ll be able to counter a few negative comments with some positive ones, but if we don’t make it a point to move on from either the conversation or person, the unrelenting attacks will start to damage us.
The only way someone can make us stand there and take an emotional beating is if we are convinced by guilt to deserve it. No one is truly qualified to be the judge of another person, and are fully responsible for only ourselves. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said:
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Redeem yourself if you fucked up, but don’t just submit. Get moving.
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Hello. My name is Jay-Ram (Jay-ROM) and I'm a Indian-American former pharmaceutical chemist. Ever since I was a child, I've had a fascination with science, watching shows like "Bill-Nye The Science Guy" and "The Magic School Bus." I often had felt like the odd-kid-out because of the different way I would find solutions to problems (usually breaking conventional norms) and this made me stand out from my peers as the weird one. Now that I've worked in the industry for a while and realised my dream of working in a lab, I have come to understand that the spirit of science that drew me to it exists beyond the laboratory walls; it lead me to a way to connect people. So to explore that, I want to help people realize that they are not separate from the universe, but a part of it, itself. Paraphrasing the great Alan Watts, my goal with writing is the following: to help us realize that even though we feel as separate waves, we are still part of the entire cosmic ocean.
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