Whenever we revisit the past, we must make sure to enjoy the good moments as much as we scrutinize our bad moments. It’s easy to spend time scrutinizing every mistake you’ve ever made – who else besides us knows every mistake we’ve ever made? But for some reason, it’s so easy to forget the things we do correctly: the good decisions. The decisions where present-day you would be proud of younger you for making that choice. Most of us (when invited) would easily celebrate the victory of a good friend or someone else we care about, but why do we forget to celebrate our victories as greatly as we scrutinize our pain? Perhaps we’ve contlditioned to look for the faults in others, instead of improving ourselves, because the former is much easier than the latter – judging others is easy, yet changing ourselves requires a lot of failure, pain and introspection. Is there a painless way to learn? No. Pain is an integral part of the human experience. Suffering however is optional. What we choose to do with the pain is what ultimately transforms us into the person we want to become. We’ve learned to become who we are from the pain of our mistakes. Pain is guaranteed, but suffering is optional.
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Hello. My name is Jay-Ram (Jay-ROM) and I'm an Indian-American who's been a pharmaceutical chemist and writer for many years. My fascination with science began as a nine year-old watching shows like "Bill-Nye The Science Guy" and "The Magic School Bus." Having a scientifically inclined thinking allows me to unconventional solutions to problems, which allowed me to help friends and colleagues. I believe that the spirit of science is to find truth and help others; as the great scientist and philosopher Carl Sagan once said, “Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality.” View all posts by Jay-Ram