Most people have a unique gift of being able to feel if someone is emotionally unwell. Sometimes, we’ll have a conversation with a friend or colleague and something will seem off. We’ll ask if everything is okay, but even if they say that they’re fine, their non-verbal cues seem to say otherwise; maybe the very opposite of “fine.” The polite thing to do is respect their words and believe them, since there is not much we can do at this point. But perhaps they have a personal reason for doing this; maybe they’re just trying to hold it together and get through the day. Maybe unpacking emotional troubles would destabilize or paralyze their emotional state. In that moment, we can give them a gift that they can choose to accept — a gift that they can take home to help unpack the emotional luggage they’ve been carrying around for so long: the gift of kindness. I’ve learned that I cannot show someone how to fix their problems, but I can give them space and positivity — they themselves are the ones best equipped to handle their problems; all they need is a clear head, love and time to change the story they’ve been telling themselves.
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Hello. My name is Jay-Ram (Jay-ROM) and I'm an Indian-American who's been a pharmaceutical chemist and writer for many years. My fascination with science began as a nine year-old watching shows like "Bill-Nye The Science Guy" and "The Magic School Bus." Having a scientifically inclined thinking allows me to unconventional solutions to problems, which allowed me to help friends and colleagues. I believe that the spirit of science is to find truth and help others; as the great scientist and philosopher Carl Sagan once said, “Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality.” View all posts by Jay-Ram